Ever cheat and then go on to have a successful relationship?

[canuck2]

Originally Posted by ewen21

A longtime friend of mine used me as an excuse several times to cheat on his wife. He cheated on her and said he was hanging out with me and I had no idea he'd done that until weeks, even months later. I was pretty pissed off because I could have easily called his house and asked for him when he was "shooting pool" at a tavern with me!. That would be an awful way to give him up/freak her out, right?

We had this talk about it. I was like, "Dude what the F!! What if I called you??? Maybe you could have told me first so I don't pick up the phone to call you??"
(we'd talk a couple times a week on the phone)
I was kinda pissed to say the least. About a week or two later I helped him tear shingling and planks off his roof--not exactly fun and games. I'd agreed to help him a while back so I felt I had to at least do that. When I got there at 7:00 AM like we said the bastard was not home. Apparently he needed to go get some last minute stuff for the job. As I pull into his driveway his wife is out front and lets me in. Next thing you know she's handing me coffee and is asking to me about him and if I heard anything about this or that. Just wonderful conversation for this time of the morning before your first cup of coffee.

I ended up working on his roof that day gutting the roof of shingles and plying out planks. By the time that was done I headed out. Later I called him on his cell to tell him that his wife asked me all sorts of questions when he wasn't home. He was like ...."What did she say? What did she say?"
I then told him to get smart with whatever he was doing and leave me the heck out of it. He was like "HUH"...I was like, "Look man......you left me out to dry today. If you're gonna cheat don't EVER say you are hanging with me and don't even tell me your war stories either. Just cheat if you want but I don't want to hear about it! I'm not going to be an excusemaker for you"
He didn't like that.

It's a shame but we haven't talked since the summer of 2010. And I'd known this guy over 30 years at that point.

All I can think after I read this is "what a scumbag you are".

[canuck2]

Originally Posted by KYmolsen

It is rocking.....Had two 1st dates that were scheduled sleepovers in the last month or so...

Still laughing about that. The 1st time I ever lay eyes on them in person, they have their jammies packed in the car. Sure as hell beats meeting them at Starbucks for coffee.

Been meeting a ton of chicks the last month ot so. Got the 3 some chicks off POF.com (Plenty of Fish). The chicks on that web site seem a little sluttier than the Match chicks.

They have match.com in Kentucky.

Pictures please.

[Phila26Flyers]

Originally Posted by canuck2

Doesnt that seem to be a bit of an oxymoron?

No, what I mean is they want someone who is normal and knows what the deal is, not some weirdo with issues.

For the hell of it, I was browsing profiles in my area and with my criteria. There are some fine looking girls. Might have to hop on there if my current relationship goes south.

[canuck2]

Originally Posted by Phila26Flyers

No, what I mean is they want someone who is normal and knows what the deal is, not some weirdo with issues.
For the hell of it, I was browsing profiles in my area and with my criteria. There are some fine looking girls. Might have to hop on there if my current relationship goes south.

I think you'd get plenty of that on these websites.

Including you.

[theknuckler]

I cheated once. It was for some bookclub. "Breakfast at tiffany's" we were supposed to read. I hate reading and didn't make it through 2 pages before giving up. Then I'd thought I'd rent the movie and watch it. Turns out it was rented out. So I looked at the computer screen when the employee wasn't looking, and found the mans address. Well I just showed up there, and talked to him about watching it with him. Joe was his name and I said "Joe, listen here. I gotta watch this movie for my bookclub." after some talking through he let me watch it with him and his daughter. Things went great, only they had no popcorn, which hurt the atmosphere big time. Anyway, the wifey found out at the bookclub meeting I didn't actually read the book, as there's differences in the movie and book. She sent my ass to the curb, and I felt shame.

[ewen21]

Originally Posted by canuck2

All I can think after I read this is "what a scumbag you are".

So I should enable my friend in his cheating? I should give him my blessing to say he's shooting pool with me or whatever while he goes to plow some dame?

Eh, no way man. He fucked up.

He was dumb to use me as a fence a bunch of times without even letting me know about it. What if she called my place trying to get in touch with him? If she happened to call I'd see his home number on my caller id (with no clue of what he's doing) and answer the phone expecting him. What am I supposed to do? Concoct a lie for him on the spot and then try to brief him on it when I get off the phone? That's idiotic

He could have at least given me a heads up to say something was up and if a call from his house came not to answer it. His woman would call every so often when he came over so what would make his alleged jaunt up to see me any different? He put me in a situation where I could have outed him entirely.
Plus the moron got busted AGAIN about a month or so later because she saw text message on his phone. It got so I had no idea what was going on inside his head being all reckless and just plain stupid. He basically took a fling wayyyy too far. He wanted to be in love with two women. Good luck with that

[BullyFan]

I've actually never cheated. I've also only had 4-5 "relationships".

I never understood how some people can cheat and then go on and stay together like it never happened. I have lots of buddies who have cheated and I can't count how many texts/calls I've gotten on a Saturday or Sunday morning saying " Hey, if you talk to my gf, tell her we were out drinking last night and I stayed at your place."

I just don't see the point of staying together if you cheat, obviously you're not that serious about your relationship, and if it happens, move on.

[canuck2]

Originally Posted by BullyFan

I've actually never cheated. I've also only had 4-5 "relationships".

.

You gotta be GAY.

[Phila26Flyers]

Originally Posted by canuck2

You gotta be GAY.

How? That's a good number for a 28 year old if we're talking serious relationships. I'm in only my second serious relationship, and first since high school.

[canuck2]

Originally Posted by Phila26Flyers

How? That's a good number for a 28 year old if we're talking serious relationships. I'm in only my second serious relationship, and first since high school.

well that's because your a skinny version of Bieber.

[Phila26Flyers]

Now that made laugh.

[Gage55]

Originally Posted by KYmolsen

It is rocking.....Had two 1st dates that were scheduled sleepovers in the last month or so...

Still laughing about that. The 1st time I ever lay eyes on them in person, they have their jammies packed in the car. Sure as hell beats meeting them at Starbucks for coffee.

Been meeting a ton of chicks the last month ot so. Got the 3 some chicks off POF.com (Plenty of Fish). The chicks on that web site seem a little sluttier than the Match chicks.

I'm 20, and I have 3 or 4 buddies between 18-22 who have banged dozens of girls they met on plenty of fish. Slut factory by the sounds of it.

[Big Violence]

Originally Posted by skacore

So a buddy of mine has been with this girl on and off for about 5 years now, more on than off but they've had their issues. Anyways, during one of their rough patches he went on a bit of a spree and ran through a couple broads in a single weekend..then they fixed things and she doesn't know about it. They've been together for over a year since then and from an outsider's perspective, things look to be going pretty well for them.

It got me thinking, can you cheat on your significant other and go on and pretend it never happened? Will it eat you up inside?

Anyone have any experiences with something similar?

It's never good to keep secrets like that from your significant other. It's always best to be honest with each other and tell the truth. People make mistakes. No one is perfect, and if that person really loves you they'll forgive you and stay with you. Keeping secrets just leads to other bad things in a relationship, and if the truth finally comes out a couple years down the road that could be it for that relationship. What's even worse than being cheated on is living a lie for a long period of time. If sleeping around with random people is what you want to do, then being in a relationship isn't the best idea. I never understood that. I know several people that just HAVE to be in a relationship, but at the same time want to run the bars and sleep with random people behind the other person's back. That just seems selfish to me. If that's the life you want to live there is nothing wrong with that. Just stay single and don't hurt another person in the process.

[KYmolsen]

Originally Posted by Gage55

I'm 20, and I have 3 or 4 buddies between 18-22 who have banged dozens of girls they met on plenty of fish. Slut factory by the sounds of it.

POF is a slut factory.....LOL. I found Date Hookup.com also.
Those girls make POF sluts look like nuns. Needless to say, I am rarely on POF anymore.

Work Match for the more upscale and Date Hookup for play time.

Not that the girls on either site are proving difficult.
Bless them.

[KYmolsen]

As I was typing this, I got a wink from a woman whose BEST FEATURE was that she was a "few extra pounds" (dating website speak for FAT).

She appeared toothless as well....

I will try to get her info and pass it on too C2. She probably likes yoga dudes.