Ever cheat and then go on to have a successful relationship?

[Merlin401]

Originally Posted by Jack Schitt

The old saying "once a cheater, always a cheater" is true... not to mention that if you can't trust your partner, what do you have? Every time they are out of sight wouldn't it run through your mind that they are doing it again? I could see some married people having issues and trying to work them out because of kids and stuff, but IMO it would never be the same. For a single/dating person to get cheated on and stay around... they either have no self esteem or are stupid.

Yes this is true. And even if the cheater DOES really reform and never cheats again. The person who was cheated on will always suspect and be worried. So even if the statement isn't true, it might as well be. Trust is everything in a relationship. Once its broken at the most core level, then things can never return to how they were. I'm not saying the people can't stay together or "work things out" but it will be different.

[lilburtis9363]

Nope, once someone cheats it fuks up the trust and ruins it. I've never physically cheated, but there have been urges in which case I ended the relationship bc that's more honest.

[ewen21]

A longtime friend of mine used me as an excuse several times to cheat on his wife. He cheated on her and said he was hanging out with me and I had no idea he'd done that until weeks, even months later. I was pretty pissed off because I could have easily called his house and asked for him when he was "shooting pool" at a tavern with me!. That would be an awful way to give him up/freak her out, right?

We had this talk about it. I was like, "Dude what the F!! What if I called you??? Maybe you could have told me first so I don't pick up the phone to call you??"
(we'd talk a couple times a week on the phone)
I was kinda pissed to say the least. About a week or two later I helped him tear shingling and planks off his roof--not exactly fun and games. I'd agreed to help him a while back so I felt I had to at least do that. When I got there at 7:00 AM like we said the bastard was not home. Apparently he needed to go get some last minute stuff for the job. As I pull into his driveway his wife is out front and lets me in. Next thing you know she's handing me coffee and is asking to me about him and if I heard anything about this or that. Just wonderful conversation for this time of the morning before your first cup of coffee.

I ended up working on his roof that day gutting the roof of shingles and plying out planks. By the time that was done I headed out. Later I called him on his cell to tell him that his wife asked me all sorts of questions when he wasn't home. He was like ...."What did she say? What did she say?"
I then told him to get smart with whatever he was doing and leave me the heck out of it. He was like "HUH"...I was like, "Look man......you left me out to dry today. If you're gonna cheat don't EVER say you are hanging with me and don't even tell me your war stories either. Just cheat if you want but I don't want to hear about it! I'm not going to be an excusemaker for you"
He didn't like that.

It's a shame but we haven't talked since the summer of 2010. And I'd known this guy over 30 years at that point.

[ewen21]

Far as I know he is still with his wife

[blades29]

Cheaters will always be cheaters and sluts (male or female) will always be sluts.

Haaaaaaaaaaaaaa.

[KYmolsen]

Quote:
Originally Posted by theknuckler
long story short, my buddy came home one day early from work, found his longterm GF on the couch with a guy. Guy ran out the back door and ran away before he could do anything to him. She said they just were kissing and they didnt bang. They're still together to this day, that was about 4 or 5 years ago.

Originally Posted by Jack Schitt

I'll bet she's still doing the same **** to that poor bastard too.

Truer words have never been spoken. Jack really does know Jack Schitt.
I would bet the grocery money on this one!!!

[KYmolsen]

I have no clue on this issue.....have never had a successful relationship.

But have been having some phenomenal Match.com experiences last couple months....FWIW.

[KYmolsen]

Originally Posted by ewen21

A longtime friend of mine used me as an excuse several times to cheat on his wife. He cheated on her and said he was hanging out with me and I had no idea he'd done that until weeks, even months later. I was pretty pissed off because I could have easily called his house and asked for him when he was "shooting pool" at a tavern with me!. That would be an awful way to give him up/freak her out, right?

We had this talk about it. I was like, "Dude what the F!! What if I called you??? Maybe you could have told me first so I don't pick up the phone to call you??"
(we'd talk a couple times a week on the phone)
I was kinda pissed to say the least. About a week or two later I helped him tear shingling and planks off his roof--not exactly fun and games. I'd agreed to help him a while back so I felt I had to at least do that. When I got there at 7:00 AM like we said the bastard was not home. Apparently he needed to go get some last minute stuff for the job. As I pull into his driveway his wife is out front and lets me in. Next thing you know she's handing me coffee and is asking to me about him and if I heard anything about this or that. Just wonderful conversation for this time of the morning before your first cup of coffee.

I ended up working on his roof that day gutting the roof of shingles and plying out planks. By the time that was done I headed out. Later I called him on his cell to tell him that his wife asked me all sorts of questions when he wasn't home. He was like ...."What did she say? What did she say?"
I then told him to get smart with whatever he was doing and leave me the heck out of it. He was like "HUH"...I was like, "Look man......you left me out to dry today. If you're gonna cheat don't EVER say you are hanging with me and don't even tell me your war stories either. Just cheat if you want but I don't want to hear about it! I'm not going to be an excusemaker for you"
He didn't like that.

It's a shame but we haven't talked since the summer of 2010. And I'd known this guy over 30 years at that point.

File this one under keep my a$$ the hell out of it. I would not be happy.

[theknuckler]

Originally Posted by KYmolsen

I have no clue on this issue.....have never had a successful relationship.

But have been having some phenomenal Match.com experiences last couple months....FWIW.

really? How's that going?

p.s. had to put on for what its worth-buffalo springfield. thanks for the reminder.

[KYmolsen]

Originally Posted by theknuckler

really? How's that going?

p.s. had to put on for what its worth-buffalo springfield. thanks for the reminder.

It is rocking.....Had two 1st dates that were scheduled sleepovers in the last month or so...

Still laughing about that. The 1st time I ever lay eyes on them in person, they have their jammies packed in the car. Sure as hell beats meeting them at Starbucks for coffee.

Been meeting a ton of chicks the last month ot so. Got the 3 some chicks off POF.com (Plenty of Fish). The chicks on that web site seem a little sluttier than the Match chicks.

[flex_buff_chest]

Originally Posted by Corpse

A man is only as faithful as his options, the key is to not get caught and then the relationship can be considered successful.

this sounds like a piece of sh*t trying to justify being a piece of sh*t.

[Phila26Flyers]

Originally Posted by KYmolsen

It is rocking.....Had two 1st dates that were scheduled sleepovers in the last month or so...

Still laughing about that. The 1st time I ever lay eyes on them in person, they have their jammies packed in the car. Sure as hell beats meeting them at Starbucks for coffee.

Been meeting a ton of chicks the last month ot so. Got the 3 some chicks off POF.com (Plenty of Fish). The chicks on that web site seem a little sluttier than the Match chicks.

That's because Match is a paysite. You get what you (don't) pay for on POF. My cousin and her roommate are on there basically just looking for good guys to come over and f*ck them.

[fansince65]

When I was single and doing the bar scene I was amazed at the amount of married women that cheated on their husbands .
I would say that every second woman I was banging was married , they even came to my apartment on their own uninvited just too get laid .
I dont think anything has changed that much over the years , I still know a lot of women that are married that cheat on their husbands .
Personally I still know some of the women that did cheat and still do ..

[canuck2]

Originally Posted by Jack Schitt

The old saying "once a cheater, always a cheater" is true... not to mention that if you can't trust your partner, what do you have? Every time they are out of sight wouldn't it run through your mind that they are doing it again? I could see some married people having issues and trying to work them out because of kids and stuff, but IMO it would never be the same. For a single/dating person to get cheated on and stay around... they either have no self esteem or are stupid.

Or they believe in forgiveness. Nobody's perfect. People make mistakes. Couples have overcome these things and have gone on to build stronger relations.

As for the question of cheating. just leave it alone. Nothing good comes from the revelation you did it. It was a mistake.

[canuck2]

Originally Posted by Phila26Flyers

That's because Match is a paysite. You get what you (don't) pay for on POF. My cousin and her roommate are on there basically just looking for good guys to come over and f*ck them.

Doesnt that seem to be a bit of an oxymoron?